Daysleeper

In the FOCCUS pre-marital inventory, there is no section on sleep. Perhaps there should be.

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Sleeping is probably the biggest point of contention in our marriage:

K needs 8-9 hours. I need about 6-7.

She can sleep anywhere, any time, any place. I toss and turn until I eventually pass out from sheer exhaustion. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and toss and turn. Which, of course, keeps her awake and annoyed.

She loves to nap, if she gets the chance. I am rarely able to nap.

She likes a nice soft bed. I like a firm supportive mattress.

Having children has only made the situation worse. Our daughters, A and B, are complete opposites and their sleep schedules are no different. When they were babies they slept in shifts. A could stay up until the wee hours of the night, while B was up at the crack of dawn. They also had an amazing ability to wake each other up from naps. Usually perfectly timed to occur just when K was falling asleep herself.

Just like our house. Except for the saxophone.

Just like our house. Except for the saxophone.

This is a big reason why we have only two children. Seriously. We are certain a child “C” would take the final shift.

This morning shows how we all work together to keep K awake. K had planned to take the children to a concert in the morning, so she didn’t have to get up quite so early to take them to school. This was going to be her day to sleep in. B came in at 5:00 because she was cold.  This woke me up. Because I had been sleeping for 7 hours, I couldn’t go back to sleep. So, I got up at 6:15, expecting to surprise K with coffee when her alarm went off, forgetting that she was supposed to be sleeping in. K tried to go back to sleep. But by now A was up (which she NEVER does—we have to D-R-A-G her out of bed every other morning) and decided to turn on the TV L-O-U-D and laugh even LOUDER, which woke K up for good.

So much for sleeping in.

What this means is that K will be irritable for most of the day unless she is fortunate enough to be able to get a nap. And the phrase “If momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy” very much applies at our house.

So, has anybody else had this problem? How were you able to solve it?

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We’ve tried separate bedrooms. Neither one of us slept well. Should we go the route of the 50’s TV show couple?

Anyone have any ideas?

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