7 Quick Takes – Volume 19 (A Little Bit of Everything)

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I’ve started a series on Real Catholic Love and Sex called “Wild Wednesdays”. Basically, this is a non-theological post about how to improve your marriage inside and outside the bedroom.

The first post is about the importance of play in your relationship and how play can help you find new love if you’re single or keep the fires burning, if you’re married.

So have fun and play games together. If you like these posts, I’ll continue the series.

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This week I learned about the Wesleyan Quadrilateral, which is the four ways that people find God.


John Wesley, Anglican priest and founder of Methodism built on the the Anglican tradition of “scripture, tradition, and reason” by adding a fourth element: Experience.

In the 20th Century, St. Teresa Benedicta of the Cross (Edith Stein) wrote of the importance of experience to understanding the Christian faith. Sound philosophy does not rise from experience alone, but experience keeps philosophy grounded in reality. Blessed John Paul II incorporated much of Edith Stein’s ideas into his own work.

This is why apologetics based in scriptural proofs and logical deductions and “because we always did it that way” often ring hollow in spreading the word.

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Unfortunately, the Anglican tradition ain’t what it used to be…

There is a controversy in the Catholic blogosphere over blogger Simcha Fischer’s reaction to a statement from Katherine Jefferts Schori, Presiding Bishop of the Episcopal Church, USA.

I have been involved with the Episcopal Church off and on during my life. My grandmother is Episcopalian and I’ve always had a fondness for that denomination.

I actually prefer the Episcopal “mass” to the Catholic one. Episcopalians still have the altar rail (as opposed to Jesus-to-go from a dozen EMs) and unlike many Catholic parishes, they know that paying the musicians is money well-spent. The Book of Common Prayer is far more elegant than either the old (prosaic) or new (awkward) mass translations.

As a child, the Episcopalians had the best Vacation Bible School, because they skipped the cheesy bible games and took us all straight to Narnia.


Aslan has left the building

But it’s nonsense like Bishop Schori’s statement is why I can’t be an Episcopalian.

The problem isn’t that she says demon possession is a gift from God, but the way she deconstructs Scripture in order to be able to call demon possession a gift from God. I’m not smart enough to do that. I don’t think St. Luke and St. Paul were smart enough to do that, either. More importantly, I don’t think God would have made the truth of Scripture only accessible to people who have received Doctorates in Divinity from elite divinity schools nearly 2000 years after the important stuff happened.

My own moment of disillusionment with the Episcopal Church was a retreat centered around finding the deeper spiritual meaning of the book Eat, Pray, Love (It says pray, it must be spiritual, right?)

Searching for God in pop culture while denigrating the miracles documented in scripture, let’s just say it turns Christianity into a world where it is always winter, but never Christmas.


This is not to imply all Episcopalians agree with Bishop Schori’s statements. My grandmother would be appalled by such nonsense. Note to Catholic readers: Episcopalians are Protestants and, therefore, put don’t put that much weight on statements of the clergy, even presiding bishops.

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Moving from mental masturbation to the old fashioned kind…

The Atlantic has an article about how the key to understanding the culture war is a person’s views on masturbation.

Quite simply, the Catholic belief that:

“Masturbation is an offense against love, because it makes the excitement of sexual pleasure an end in itself and uncouples it from the holistic unfolding of love between a man and a woman….Living by the motto “For sex I do not need anyone; I will have it myself, however and whenever I need it” makes nobody happy.” YouCat 409.

is completely opposed to the idea that

“The fundamental sexual unit is one person; adding more people to that unit may be intimate, fun, and companionable, but it does not complete anybody.”

The Grand Unified Theory of the culture wars is that it turns on the questions of whether sex is about one person or two.

You know my position on this, but I have to ask that if sex is only for one—only about yourself—isn’t this a recipe for really bad sex when you DO have a partner?

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Speaking of recipes for bad sex…

The big discussions over the past week have been about “spit cup” sex ed, where women are taught that having sex before marriage will make them gross, dirty, and unlovable. This has been covered extensively in the Evangelical blogosphere and in the Catholic blogosphere.

Most of the chastity programs are focused on virgin teenage girls. But what about the guys? Bonnie Engstrom has a fantastic article about how guys are impacted by chastity education gone wrong.

As much has been written about this over the past few months, I think bloggers have only just scratched the surface. This issue is far bigger than sex.

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As for dealing with the big issues in my life….

Our 7QT host has a fantastic post about questions her spiritual director likes to ask.

Spiritual direction seems like having a spiritual “life coach”. Which has been enough to inspire me to go find one.

Combine that with the fact that Confession is cheaper than therapy and often more effective, the Church seems to have everything in place to solve all of my life issues.

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Which still leaves me with my technical issues…

Because of some problems with Blogger eating a post, Kate and I will probably be moving Real Catholic Love and Sex to WordPress. Right now, Bluehost looks to be the best deal, although I have had good experience with HostGator in the past.

Unfortunately, this means the blog will no longer be free for us. Ideally we’d like the ad revenue to cover the cost of the site, but don’t know if this is possible or how to go about doing this?

Anyone have any helpful hints about not losing money off a hosted blog?

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